How to Fall in Love with Your Life
by Luzia Light
Relationships are really the number one most important thing in life, there is just no contest. The foundation of a life of happiness and contentment is the relationship you have with yourself, the love you have for others and the connection you have with God, the Universe and your Higher Self, whatever you want to call the source of love and life. Nurture the relationship with yourself by respecting your need for rest, relaxation, fun and following you heart. Dress to express your true self, wear clothes that make you feel confident and strong. Live in harmony with your values. Feed your body healthy, nutritous meals and drinks. Be good to yourself. Nurture your relationship with your significant other by planning date nights once a week. Get a babysitter if you have kids. Say ‘I love you’ often. List things that you appreciate about him/her. Focus on the positive. Praise, don’t criticize. Instead of getting annoyed, find the humour in a stressful situation. Nurture the relationship with your friends and family by connecting often through phone calls, emails, coffee meetings, dinner parties, giving little gifts and sending birthday cards. Connect to your community, get to know your neighbours. Commit random acts of kindness. And nurture your relationship with the universe by meditating every single day. Communicate with the Divine by asking questions and listening for answers. Make it a daily ritual. Say (e.g.): Dear Great Spirit, what do you want me to know today?
Having a sense of humour means being able to laugh at—or at least see the humor in—life’s absurdities. If the stress in your life lets you forget sometimes to laugh, then dedicate some time to expose yourself to humour. Schedule it in your calendar if you have to. Watch comedies, go to your favourite humour website for jokes, hang out with people who make you laugh. Get together with your best friends for the sole purpose of sharing funny memories from the past or watching funny movies together. The more ridiculous the better. Try this: Set yourself a specific goal of finding 5 funny things every day for the next week (or two). If I were to pay you $500 for every funny thing you noticed in the day, you know you’d find plenty of things to laugh at—because you would be actively looking for them. They’re there waiting for you. Just put looking for them on the “front burner” for one week and see what happens. Write down the essence of the funny thing that happened as soon as you can. Writing it down strengthens the habit of noticing it.
Your life needs a soundtrack! What kind of music to you like to listen to? Surround yourself with that. Play music yourself. Learn a new instrument. Play music together with other wanna-be musicians. Make up your own songs. Go dancing. Take a dance class. Dance naked in front of your pet. Sing in the shower. Go to concerts, stop and listen to street musicians. There needs to be music in your life.
Adopt the rule of one. Think: consolidate.
• consolidate your debt
• have only one bank
• go grocery shopping only once a week
• clean your home only once a month (hire out if you can)
• do laundry only once a week
• put like things with like things into one place: all office supplies into your office area, all food into the kitchen, all clothes into one closet (add shelving if needed)
• keep all cleaning supplies in one area
• keep all books in one shelf
• have only one storage area – if it’s full, then it’s time to donate. Storage really should be only for christmas trees and luggage. If you don’t use something, donate it.
• have only one to do list.
• have one notebook in which you write everything: from ideas, lists, phone numbers to diary entries, diagrams and life plans.
• schedule your appointments in one calendar, either digital OR paper.
• keep all children’s toys in one area. Get one big shelf with baskets for sorting lego and cars, books go on the shelf without a basket and stuffed animals go on top of the shelf. Done.
• Utensils: Have only one hammer, one spatula, one toaster etc.
This is the new Power of One. (-:
Always think: how can I simplify my life more so I have more time for fun?
- Go on adventures. Make travel plans. Adventure really is just the opposite of routine. Anything that can get you out of your day-to-day rut has the possibility to infuse your life with excitement.
- Do nothing. Rest, relax, listen to the birds sing in the trees and let the sun shine on your beautiful face.
- Write a bucket list and start checking some of those things off that list!
- Be present. Live mindfully. Acknowledge and appreciate the wonderful and often little things in your life.
- Savour your food.
- Create simple meals from scratch. Have a list of effortless mid-week recipes that don’t involve several layers of packing and microwave instructions. Like stir-fry veggies and rice noodles and tofu. Keep it simple.
- Listen to the radio when you make dinner in the kitchen. Have a glass of wine.
- Breathe. Become aware of smells. Open the window and breathe in fresh air.
- Learn new things. Take a course in something you always wanted to learn. If not now, when? Meet like-minded people while you’re there! Maybe go back to school full-time.
- Carry a notebook wherever you go and write down ideas, thoughts, plans for world domination etc.
- Take pictures throughout the day with your camera. Collect and share them on instagram or just keep them for yourself. Create a visual diary of your life.
- Dress to express who your really are. Glamour? Comfort? Avant-garde? Conservative? Minimalist? What is YOUR style? If you feel confident in your clothes, your whole mood changes and you live your day from a place of authenticity and inner strength. It really makes a big difference.
- Have glass of champagne or some other treat in the middle of the week, just because. Because you are celebrating your life – at all times.
- Make exercise a natural part of your daily activities. Walk to the store. Bike to work. Park further away so you need to walk more. Use the stairs. Dance while you vacuum.
- Take a break. Schedule Me-time into your day, every day! Take time in the middle of the day to sit down and enjoy a cup of coffee or tea and read something fun like a magazine or delicious novel. Have a healthy snack. Take a 20 minute power nap if you need it. Ask yourself every day: what do I need to feel good today?
LOVE YOUR HOME
Pay attention to the neighbourhood you live in. How does it make you feel? Does it make you feel comfortable, safe and happy? If not, could you live in a different area that would suit your needs and wants better? How do you feel about your home? Is it your dream home? If you don’t have a lot of money to spend, you can still control the look of your home a lot! Simply by
- decorating with furniture, artwork etc. from second hand stores or garage sales.
Go to pinterest and search for decorating boards. Find out what you love and copy it as best as you can.
DO WORK YOU LOVE
There is work that you love to do. If you don’t know what it is, make every effort to find out. Take aptitude tests online. Do some soul searching. You already know what it is, you probably just forgot or buried it beneath a mountain of guilt, shoulds, denial and obligations. If you can’t work full time at what you really want to do, lean into it. Do a bit every day, or every week and expand from there.
YOUR FALLING-IN-LOVE-WITH-LIFE LIST
To fall in love with your life, you need to focus on LOVE. Do things you love to do. Set priortities around the people, things and activities you love. Make time for love. If not now, when? Write your own Falling-in-Love-with-Life list. It’s very personal. These are just some ideas to get you started.